Life is complex. It’s amazing our brains have the ability to collect, store and analyze information in the ways they do, let alone processing the endless possible perspectives that exist in the world. When we think about the reality of a situation, especially those affecting Relationships are never perfect.

Living life as a single person can be a rewarding experience.We have more time to focus on our own wants and needs, learning how to appreciate and care for ourselves along the way. But sooner or later, we may feel the urge to connect with someone in a romantic way. This could be a fleeting feeling satisfied by a one-night stand, or it could be a more persistent desire for long-term companionship. However the urge presents itself, seeking a partner is a natural part of life, and as any good relationship therapist will tell you, it’s important to think about what those urges might be trying to tell you.

Slowly but surely, we’re all emerging from quarantine and reconnecting with those outside of our immediate circle. Coming out of a pandemic, where we spent the majority of our time indoors with our partner, it’s more important than ever to remember the value of independence in sustaining a healthy relationship.

It takes more than lighting a few candles and popping on some jazz music. In fact, it requires more talking than actual sex. We sometimes want to force ourselves into intimacy, thinking that if we get into it then we’ll get more in the mood. But the truth is that many couples stop having sex when more serious problems present themselves in other areas of the relationship.

Trust and Trauma: the two big T's of mental health. When we experience trauma, not only does it hinder our ability to trust those we feel have wronged us, it also leaves a lasting impression on our memories. It's surprisingly common to experience triggers involving past trauma, and exposing ourselves to our triggers can cause fear, anxiety, or depression. When our trauma involves another person and a betrayal of trust, that's when it's time to take a step back and assess the situation before attempting to move forward with your relationship with this person.